Category Archives: Consciousness

Change...Change... Change

I like to think of myself as a stable human being but I have noticed my preferences and choices change…change…change  over time to say the least. How about You?

Over the Years

There are certain things and people I have treasured throughout my life. There are even certain skills and abilities I wish it were possible to maintain. Yes, there are new skills being developed yet I wish I had the perspective I have now when I was younger unfolding those skills, aspects of myself and relationships. Ah, a bit of regret and still here I am.

I don’t know about you but when I was young I hated beets and remember throwing them up when forced to eat them. I remember a later time when I loved eating borsht, a beet soup and now I am indifferent.

My taste in clothes has changed with the times and my figure…emm but still here I am. The essential self has never changed. My personality for better or worse may have mellowed but still, here I am. A friend of my father’s, Alex King, wrote a book ‘Mine Enemy Grows Older’. I have always been impressed with this title and over my life I have come to understand what it means. Hip Hip Hooray!

Discoveries

I have discovered that what I judged as my worst qualities were blessings in disguise. How about you? I look back, as I enter another period of my life and experience my life as blessed, even more than I deserved by the people, friends who came in to support me as I journeyed. And it has been a journey, it is not by any means over…looks like many years to go.

How about your life. What are your reflections? Your inner thoughts? Are you being kind to yourself? Is there something you need to do or attend to with someone or address with your own self? Only you know.

The Essential

So I am not a child, not twenty or 30 or…I reach instead into the wisdom of these current years and looking to that which is permanent not only in myself but in everything. The wise have called this enlightenment.

I have to say as I struggle with technology, I do not feel very enlightened even as I recognize tech mastery is just a matter of skill and practice. And still I Am.

How about You? Are You always Changing or Have you found that which is permanent in You!

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A Hundred Million Miracles!

A Hundred Million Miracles are happening every day! Below are the words to this song from the Broadway Musical ‘Flower Drum Song’. It was the only Summer stock show I ever danced in and it had an impact on my life.

It is all ways important to be aware of the seemingly little miracles in your life. You never know where one event, experience or perception will lead. And perhaps more importantly everyday miracles bring us joy. Winter became Spring and now Summer in this year of the Pandemic but despite the toll and changes in your life you may have noticed that nature and the season weren’t paying the same attention. The weather shifted and the flowers bloomed…so will you in time if that hasn’t happened already! The opportunity is to open to a new appreciation of all that you may have taken for granted.

Just A Line…?

I loved the line in ‘Flower Drum Song’ where the father, in the show, says “All white men look alike.” Today, the general public is still having discussions about racism and people of color are still hurt, killed, and discriminated against. Why is that…?

I loved the line of dialogue because to this day I can’t tell which country an Asian person comes from or an African….I am color blind. I can only relate to people. person to person. How about you? And also if I was around more people of color, brown, black, yellow or green perhaps I would be able to discern country or planet of origin but is that the defining mark of equality?

I only discovered discrimination against women when I moved to Canada. I grew up in the dance world of New York City. What can I say. Talent and skill were the measure, not gender or color. One of my first boyfriends was the first black man in a symphony orchestra. I only learned this years after knowing him. Yeah, and my mother had an affair with Harry Belafonte…oi vey!

I also need to say as long as I am dredging up memories that I won a dance scholarship to an Ivy league school running up against a young black man. I won because of my grades and perhaps skill. One of the judges was black, Donald McKale…so I know it wasn’t about color. But you can see how these issues can get complicated.

I will say that one of my fondest memories of living in Toronto came when walking in the business part of town, a drunk was calling an indigenous person names. Several business men walking by said to the man “Don’t pay attention. He’s just drunk.”  Now, Canada just has to make it law for those who are inebriated by there own insecurities….just a thought.

Back to Miracles

Let’s get back to the topic: miracles and ‘Flower Drum Song’. I meet my first love there while rehearsing for the show. He became a life long friend and his mother turned out to be the best friend of a beloved professor of mine, who had danced with my mother on what they call an industrial in the business. I saw this show when I was eight and remember it well. It had a flying car that dispensed ice cream sodas.

My father was in the original version of ‘Flower Drum Song’ on Broadway. He met the love of his life as the show pre-toured before coming to New York. Yeah, my getting the job in Summer stock was pure nepotism and also I had just graduated New York’s renown High School of Performing Arts, featured in the movies ‘Fame’. So yes, I could dance. My Father and his wife Nancy were together for nearly 60 years. My mother and he were friends until she died.

My old professor left me an inheritance and my first love’s sister sent me a beautiful scarf just before Christmas this past year. You never know where your story leads until you live it. Appreciate Your everyday miracles….

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My Father and his Wife Nancy Lober from their Dancing Days!

 

A Hundred Million Miracles: lyrics…

My father says
That children keep growing
Rivers keep flowing too
My father says
He doesn’t know why
But somehow or other they do
They do
Some how or other they do

A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day
And those who say
They don’t agree
Are those
Who do not hear or see
A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day

Miracle of changing weather
When a dark blue curtain
Is pinned by the stars
Pinned by the stars to the sky
Ev’ry flow’are
And tree is a treat to see
The air is very clean and dry

Then a wind comes blowing
The pins all away
Night is confused and upset
The sky falls down
Like a clumsy clown
The flowers
And the trees get wet
Very wet

A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day
And when the wind
Shall turn his face
The pins
Are put right back in place
A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day

In ev’ry single minute
So much is going on
Along the Yangtse Kiang
Or the Tiber or the Don
A hundred million miracles

A swallow in Tasmania
Is sitting on her eggs
And suddenly
Those eggs have wings
And eyes and beaks and legs
A hundred million miracles

A little girl in Chungking
Just thirty inches tal
Decides that she
Will try to walk
And nearly doesn’t fall
A hundred million miracles

A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day

My father says the sun
Will keep rising over
The eastern hill
My father says
He doesn’t know
Why but somehow
Or other it will
It will
Somehow or other it will

Miracle of making music
When an idle poet
Puts words on a page
Writes on a page
With his brush
A musical friend
Writes the notes to blend
Suggested
By an idle thrush

Then a young soprano
Reads what they wrote
Learns every note
Every word
Puts all they wrote
In her lovely throat
And suddenly
A song is heard
Very pretty

A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
A hundred million miracles
Are happ’ning ev’ry day

 

Are You Experienced?

I am interested in natural healing these days but in my younger years I loved to dance. I remember this song by Jimmy Hendrix ‘Are You Experienced’. I used it  as the practice music for a dance I created in my Master Thesis Performance at U.C.L.A. so many years ago. It was a very sexy dance!

In my work today as a Spiritual Teacher and Therapist, it is not so much a question of ‘are you experienced?’ but are you available. What does that mean? Simply, are you open to having an experience?

You & I…

You are half the equation. I facilitate and you need to be open, ready to receive. Yes, I know you want to be healed. Just remember, you are half of the equation.

In terms of natural healing, this means the very tissue of your body needs to be available to support and sustain the process. And your unconscious mind needs to be aligned with you conscious intent.

What else does this mean? If your cultural conditioning says it can’t happen or you say silently ‘prove it’. The ‘it’ is probably not going to happen.

 

A Personal Example

I recently had a somatic, physical response when my hands-on practice disappeared in a day due to the Covid-19 lockdown. It shocked what I call my ‘inner animal’ and I started to have sensations in my breast.

The atmosphere of that first wave of fear was not the time to seek out a doctor. So I called in those who could help. This includes my ‘Healing Mentor’, who lives near Cleveland, Ohio in the States. I live in Montreal, Quebec. He sent me distant healing and the sensations gradually subsided. I also worked with a long time student of mine who is becoming an herbalist. She came with salves, tincture and herbal healing tea.

I also took a supplement called Fulvic Power. Do let me know if you want to know more about this latter.

I read,after a couple of weeks, what Google had to say about my symptoms and looked in my reference books. I got hysterical. They all said ‘Fatal’. But my Healing Mentor said “STOP! It is not a cancer…just a miscommunication between the blood, the lymph and the microchrondria.”  So I relaxed.

 

Being Available

Suffice it to say I was available. I trust in preventative and natural healing solutions, including distant healing sessions which I also share with other people including my ‘Healing Mentor’. I have been teaching and receiving distant healing for over 30 years.

Let’s face it allopathic, science based, medicine is great in an emergency or when surgery is needed. But for chronic conditions, not so much or not without significant side effects. I do have to say that gentle hands-on bodywork as well as distant healing is even helpful in acute and emergency situations as a support to medical intervention. And also the natural process is sometimes slow. My return to balance was, at least to my mind, slow.

Two months later, I decided to check in with a doctor. I called one day to make an appointment. The secretary called back the next day and made an appointment for the following day. This in itself was scary. Getting an appointment the next day, at least in Canada, simply does not happen.

I did wait two hours. I was super lucky. All the tests were run on the spot. The result: It was not cancer. YEAH!

I asked the doctor what it was and he said well maybe it is a pulled muscle or a hormonal imbalance…duh, he did not know…and gave me an appointment for a year from now.

 

By the Way…

The Spiritual Teacher in me knows that everything is perfect as it is. Whatever ‘it’ is, Eh…

Oh, and just a footnote. I got to meet Jimmy Hendricks at Max’s Kansas City, a popular New York City restaurant, a long time ago.

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Water under the Bridge

The Buddhist Say

The Buddhist say life is suffering but you do not have to suffer unnecessarily. They also say that some things are written in water…these change easily….some things are written in sand…they take longer…and some are carved in stone….these take the longest and often mean learning to accept and manage what you are experiencing.

Life

Life is about change, though it seems at times to take forever. Change does happen. So perhaps, at least, some of your feelings are water under the bridge…waves of e-motion passing through you….some perhaps are stuck, stranded on the sandy shores of your own view of reality or some e-motions are carved deeply into the crevices of your face.

Beauty

Those of you wanting beauty need to ease and erase these carvings at least from your face. No dermatologist can do this. And no amount of Botox will fill the gaps of your consciousness unless you feel your feelings with compassion. Each pain and hurt has a gift and if you read the tag on the gift you will discover its meaning.

Now

Now, if you will take a moment to remember a hurt or pain…let it inspire you to write a poem or dance a dance or simply feel from the spaciousness of your own heart….and the possibility is it, whatever the ‘it’, will become water under the bridge.

Flow

I have been leaning on emotions but we could also be talking about your body or psychological or even spiritual pain. The issue remains how to creatively transform the ‘thing’ into water under the bridge. If you remember that water is life then you have begun to let life flow.

The Secret

Where is your life taking you right here, right now. What moment to moment shift, movement wants, needs to happen in this very moment? And I know you secretly know but you just might not want to tell….emmm

In The Moment

 

Be in the Moment. This is the only moment there is. We can project into the future…but it has yet to arrived. Enjoy the moment even if it is only the thought of a possible future…what paradox eh. The gift is the PRESENT. Perhaps you have heard this before…always a good reminder.

Your Mind

My mind’s job is to turn complicated anatomical concepts into easy to understand principles which will help you lessen your stress! Your mind will then not be in  overwhelm. Yeah!

Right now I have just finished assisting at a Somatic Education Workshop in NYC. What we did in this Somatic workshop, (soma means body), is dive into depth into the embryological origins of our nervous system.

In other words

In other words, this is how to balance what you might call Stress with Relax, Focus on You and Nurture Your Self. This is another way of looking at how to balance Fight, Flight, Freeze reactions with our Rest and Digest system.

Another Way…

Yet another way to see this balance is in terms of being alert and active versa relaxing, resting and meditating.

The truth is you need some of everything! To be truly present you need to be alert. To be active in your life you need to have a base of relaxation.  In fact, every function of your body is a little bit of both the Sympathetic system/alert and Parasympathetic/rest and digest.

My question to you, is when you have taken in too much information… what do you do?

Me, I will move and also feel my feelings…there are so many ways you can get out of your head.

In the workshop I was approached by a young woman who was crying and feeling awful. She kept asking me questions. I mostly held the space for her to feel her feelings. I could tell that her nervous system was overloaded with information and repeatedly from time to time asked her to stop thinking. And also gently asked her to put her hands on her belly and breathe. When she was finally able to breathe into her belly…her whole system relaxed and she felt well.

So my suggestion to you when you get stuck in your head, breathe into your belly!

You may ask why…try it and I will tell you…in the next blog

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